Philadelphia PA's Private  Lesbian -only  Social Club

Section 1 – Bylaws

Article I – Name

The name of this organization is Just Right Social Club, hereinafter referred to as “Just Right,” “the Club,” “our family,” “the family,” or “the Just Right family.”

 

Article II – Purpose

Just Right is a lesbian-led, member-driven, family-style social club for cisgender lesbians age 35 and older.

Our purpose is to:

• Foster community and connection among members

• Promote family-style social interaction and support

• Organize events, meetups, and activities that help our members feel seen, safe, and valued

• Serve the broader LGBTQ+ community through outreach that aligns with our story and passion, including:

  • Supporting safe and affirming spaces for our community

  • Organizing or supporting hygiene drives and resource distribution for homeless and at-risk individuals

  • Partnering with local organizations that uplift marginalized communities

Just Right is rooted in lived experience: we understand homelessness, rejection, survival, and comeback—and we are committed to building something different for lesbians 35+.

 

Article III – Membership

Section 1 – Eligibility

Membership is open to:

• Cisgender lesbians, age 35 or older

• Who agree with the Club’s purpose, boundaries, and Family Rules

• Who complete the membership application honestly

“Cisgender” here means: born female and still identifying as female.

 

Section 2 – Membership Status

• Members – Active members who are approved, pay dues, and participate in Club life.

• There is no traditional Board in the new structure; leadership roles are expressed through the family structure:

  • Mother

  • Future regional daughters

  • Members under them

 

Section 3 – Membership Rules & Requirements

Members agree to:

1. Active Participation

   • Engage in online spaces and/or in-person events when able.

   • When life allows, aim to attend at least one event per quarter to stay connected.

2. Inclusivity & Respect

   • Show respect, kindness, and understanding toward other members.

   • Discrimination, harassment, bullying, or hate speech are not tolerated.

3. Privacy & Confidentiality

   • Keep what is shared in private meetings, messages, or online groups confidential.

   • Do not screenshot, forward, record, or retell members’ personal business outside Just Right without clear permission.

4. Accountability & Integrity

   • Honor commitments as best as possible.

   • Understand that repeated or serious violations of these Bylaws, Family Rules, or Inception Principles may result in a conversation, a pause in participation, or suspension/termination of membership to protect the family and the Club.

 

Section 4 – Dues

• Standard membership dues are currently $20.00 per month per member.

• All members agree that dues will be collected by automatic recurring debit using the payment method they provide.

• Dues may be changed in the future with clear notice to members.

• Dues help support the Club and are non-refundable.

• Membership privileges may be suspended for unpaid dues.

How dues and funds may be used include, but are not limited to:

• Website management and upkeep

• Phone, tech, or communication services

• Promotional products and materials

• Community outreach and support

• Costs toward obtaining and maintaining a physical location for Just Right Social Club

Hardship & Flexibility

• Members facing temporary financial hardship may request a private conversation with the mother (and/or designated financial helper) to explore possible options for short-term support or dues flexibility.

• Assistance is not guaranteed, but requests will be heard with care, discretion, and respect.

 

Section 5 – Enrollment

• General membership continues on a month-to-month basis as long as dues are current and the member honors the Bylaws, Family Rules, and Inception Principles.

• Members who are invited to serve as regional daughters agree to a minimum one-year service commitment in that role, renewable annually by mutual agreement between the mother, the daughter, and (when helpful) the members connected under her.

• If a daughter needs to step down before the year ends due to serious life circumstances, she agrees to give as much notice as reasonably possible so a smooth transition can be made. Stepping down as a daughter does not automatically end her membership in Just Right; she may remain a general member on a month-to-month basis if she chooses and is in good standing.

 

Article IV – Family Structure & Leadership

Just Right uses a chosen-family–inspired structure that is for members, by members. The mother, any future daughters, and the members under them are all part of the same lesbian family, with different roles of service — not different levels of worth.

1. Mother of Just Right

   • Holds the founding vision and helps protect the culture, safety, and purpose of the Club as a member herself, serving the family.

   • Listens to members, considers the needs of the family, and makes final decisions when necessary to keep the family and the Club in order.

2. Future Regional daughters

   • As the family grows, some members may be invited to serve as daughters in specific regions as a service role, helping the family and Club function—not as a rank above other member.

   • Daughters agree to a minimum one-year commitment in this role, unless serious life circumstances require them to step down sooner.

   • Daughters help organize gatherings, share information, support members connected under them, and model Just Right’s values.

3. Members Under Them

   • Members may be connected under a daughter by region or area.

   • Being “under” a daughter is about support, structure, and communication, not about age, rank, or control. All members are grown women, equal in worth and dignity.

 

Article V – Meetings

1. Family Meetings

   • Family meetings (in person or virtual) may be held to share updates, plans, and decisions.

   • The mother, and any future daughters, may call family meetings as needed.

2. Gatherings & Events

   • Just Right may host social events, fundraisers, and special gatherings.

   • Details (time, place, purpose, any costs) will be clearly communicated in advance.

 

Article VI – Private Member Groups & Online Spaces

Just Right may host private member groups on its website or other platforms. These spaces are for focused interaction and connection based on shared interests, regions, or circles.

Guidelines:

1. Private groups must align with Just Right’s mission, values, and Family Rules.

2. Group leaders must be active members and are responsible for keeping the space positive and inclusive.

3. Just Right reserves the right to review groups and posts to ensure alignment with the Club’s purpose.

4. Private groups may organize their own meetups, but must coordinate with the mother or designated leaders to avoid conflict with larger events and to uphold safety and privacy.

 

Article VII – Fund Usage

Club funds (dues, donations, event proceeds) may be used to:

• Support members in emergencies or genuine hardship on a limited, case-by-case basis, when resources allow and at the discretion of the mother (and any designated financial helpers)

• Support Club programs, events, and initiatives

• Advance outreach that aligns with our purpose and story (for example, efforts connected to homelessness or at-risk community members)

• Maintain and expand Just Right’s presence through website upkeep, communication services, and promotion

Donations are welcomed and will be used in alignment with these purposes.

 

Article VIII – Social Media & Public Presence

1. Public Pages

   • Just Right may maintain public social media accounts (e.g., Facebook, Instagram, X) and a website.

   • These pages represent the Club’s public image and will be managed to reflect respect, privacy, and integrity.

2. Private Spaces

   • Website groups and other designated spaces are private and restricted to cisgender lesbians age 35 and up.

   • Content may at times include adult themes or mature discussion. Members are expected to engage respectfully.

3. Using the Just Right Name

   • Members agree not to create unofficial pages, groups, or events in the name of Just Right without approval.

   • The Just Right name is not to be used in online arguments, callouts, or public drama.

 

Article IX – Photography & Video

By participating in events, members understand that photos and/or video may be taken for Club memories and limited promotion.

• Members who do not wish to appear in photos or videos must communicate that clearly before or at the start of an event, and the Club will make reasonable efforts to honor that.

• Any photo or video that puts a member in danger or deep discomfort will be addressed in good faith if brought to the mother’s attention.

 

Article X – Guest Policy

Guests may be welcomed under the following conditions:

1. A guest must be personally invited or sponsored by a current member.

2. Guests must agree to honor the Club’s values and respect that this is a lesbian-centered, 35+ space.

3. The sponsoring member is responsible for their guest’s behavior.

4. Some events may be members-only; this will be clearly stated.

 

Article XI – Amendments

• These Bylaws may be updated or amended as Just Right grows.

• Amendments may be proposed by the mother or by members.

• Changes will be shared with members, and time will be allowed for questions and feedback before they take effect.

 

Article XII – Dissolution

If Just Right Social Club is ever dissolved:

• Remaining assets, after any obligations are met, will be donated to a nonprofit organization with a similar mission, chosen by the mother in consultation with the family.

 

Article XIII – Adoption & Acknowledgment

These Bylaws take effect when adopted by Just Right and replace any previous versions that no longer match the family structure.

Just Right honors and acknowledges the contributions of its founder, ReGina Arnett, in establishing this organization and its mission, and recognizes her ongoing influence in shaping the Club’s values, story, and activities.

 

Section 2 – Family Rules (House Agreements)

These are the everyday ways we agree to move with each other as a family:

1. We remember this is a cisgender lesbian 35+ only space — no exceptions.

2. We speak and act like grown women, even when feelings are big.

3. We protect one another’s privacy and dignity at all times.

4. We do not use Just Right spaces to attack, embarrass, or expose anyone.

5. When there’s an issue, we address it directly with the person involved or, when needed, with the mother or a daughter — not through gossip, group chats, or public posts.

6. We are mindful of substances at events and do not allow our use to make the space unsafe or uncomfortable.

7. We respect venues, homes, and neighbors wherever we gather as a family.

8. We honor boundaries and consent in conversation, touch, flirting, and energy.

9. We are allowed to step back when life is heavy, but we communicate when we can so others aren’t left confused.

10. We accept that harmful or repeated patterns may lead to pauses or removal, not as punishment, but as protection of the family and the Club.

 

Section 3 – The 12 Inception Principles of Just Right

These Inception Principles are not recovery steps and not based on NA.
They are our own guiding principles for how this lesbian-led, member-driven family moves, grows, and protects itself.

1. We center safety.
   Our first priority is keeping this a safe, private space for cisgender lesbians 35+ in both energy and behavior.

2. We honor who this family is for.
   Just Right is specifically for cisgender lesbians 35 and older. We do not blur or apologize for this focus.

3. We consider the whole family.
   We make decisions with the health of the overall family in mind, not just one person’s ego, comfort, or status.

4. We respect our structure.
   We recognize the roles of the mother, future daughters, and members under them as a way to stay organized and supported—not as a ladder of who matters more.

5. We keep our word meaningful.
   Our words, promises, and posts matter. We aim to speak honestly, clearly, and with care for how our words affect others.

6. We treat money as support, not control.
   Dues, donations, and event funds exist to help the family function and grow—not to control, shame, or divide members.

7. We guard our name on purpose.
   We are intentional about where and how “Just Right” is used. We do not attach our name to people, events, or causes that clash with our values.

8. We grow with intention.
   We expand into new regions, roles, and projects when we have the capacity and stability—not just to look big.

9. We keep outside chaos outside.
   Members may have personal causes and conflicts, but the Just Right name is not to be used as a weapon in outside drama or online wars.

10. We let service speak louder than titles.
    Whether someone is a daughter, helper, or longtime member, what matters is how she shows up for the family, not just what she is called.

11. We honor different ways of showing up.
    Some members are loud and front-facing; others are quiet and steady. We value all forms of presence that support the family and the Club.

12. We remember why we started.
    We began from a real need for home, safety, and connection for lesbians 35+. Every choice should move us closer to that—not away from it.